Understanding Difficult Behavior: For Foster and Adoptive Parents - Gracious Paradise Charitable Trust

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It is not very unusual for children and adolescents living in foster care and other adoptive situations to display behavior that is challenging and sometimes are of more severity. As a result of such behaviors parents, who provide care to those children, often become upset and bewildered by what they experience. It is noteworthy for those parents to remember the circumstances that the child was in his/her formative years. This will help them to understand better the behaviors that the children exhibit.

History

Understanding a child’s history is very crucial. Often children who enter a foster care are victims of neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse, parental mental health issue, orphanage care, parents having addiction issues or some other problems. It is observed in some cases that children display similar behavior that they experience from their parents. Some instances are as follows:

Understanding a child’s history is very crucial. Often children who enter a foster care are victims of neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse, parental mental health issue, orphanage care, parents having addiction issues or some other problems. It is observed in some cases that children display similar behavior that they experience from their parents. Some instances are as follows:
• Depressed or withdrawn mood
• Sexually acting out
• Physical aggression towards animals or others
• Anger
• Inability to control impulsive actions
• Inability to connect with others
• Emotional sensitivity
• Sadistic behavior

The underlying reason is, in most cases, is that the children did not have a loving, secure and comfortable environment in their formative years. From their point of view, they might be simply having a normal reaction to all the negative past experiences. That is why; a clear idea of the child’s past is required. By gaining a clear understanding of the child’s past experiences, one will be able to help the children by giving him/her a clam and therapeutic solution. It is seen in many cases that the children change with the warmth and security they receive from a therapeutic and positive parent.

The underlying reason is, in most cases, is that the children did not have a loving, secure and comfortable environment in their formative years. From their point of view, they might be simply having a normal reaction to all the negative past experiences. That is why; a clear idea of the child’s past is required. By gaining a clear understanding of the child’s past experiences, one will be able to help the children by giving him/her a calm and therapeutic solution. It is seen in many cases that the children change with the warmth and security they receive from a therapeutic and positive parent.

Therapeutic Environment

Children tend to react even more when they are scared. Therefore, it is advised to deal with the children with emotional reciprocity. the children, having endured negative experiences, usually look at people around them as possible threats. That is when a therapeutic environment is needed. Therapeutic environment means giving the children an environment where the parents are able to respond to situations in a direct and positive manner.

Children tend to react even more when they are scared. Therefore, it is advised to deal with the children with emotional reciprocity. the children, having endured negative experiences, usually look at people around them as possible threats. That is when a therapeutic environment is needed. Therapeutic environment means giving the children an environment where the parents are able to respond to situations in a direct and positive manner.
The therapeutic parenting is very crucial in order to respond successfully to situations and this includes
• Clear rules and expectations
• No use of physical punishment, sarcasm or other negative reactions
• use of positive reward and appreciation for desired behavior
• Maintaining a calm tone and positive facial expressions
• Implementing boundaries

Therapeutic parenting is very crucial when it comes to setting boundaries in a gentle manner, gentle enough to boost the child’s emotional needs and the development stages.

Perseverance

It is assumed that the first year will be tough as the children might not react well to the therapeutic measures initially. However, if the parents can persevere through all the hardships and difficulties, the end result can be very good. Over the time, the children are expected to respond well to the consistency and the warmth. This will further help them to build more trust and a strong sense of security with the parents and with the rest of the world.

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